Life is short….but you can live longer👍

Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
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The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

Thank you    Philosophy Through Photography

Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Unhappy coule
Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Pixabay,Curiano.com

Happy Universal Chidren’s day-Nov 20 th

Happy Children's day
While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.Angela Schwindt

United Nations Universal Children’s Day was established in 1954 and is celebrated on November 20th each year to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improving children’s welfare.

The theme is #Goblue

Image-Pixabay

U & I

You & I,Friendship.friends

To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You

U & I

Letters start with A-B-C

Numbers start with 1-2-3

Music starts with Do-Re-Mi

And Friendship starts with u & I

 

Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.

 

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Are you a ‘wanting’ or a ‘giving’ personality?

Not enough,greedy

“Enough of any thing is plenty.but plenty to some people is not enough”Sophie Irene Loeb

First let us talk about ‘Wanting’ personalities-

More money ,more popularity,more pleasure,more likes in social media,more than 1000 friends/follows in social media,more achievements ( though positive ),more power one can go on… and remember, we are never tired of ‘wanting’ more.This has become a human trait.

Why you want more and more …..and even more ?

Probably you fear the ‘uncertain’ future, probably you are ‘greedy’.

These things make you develop desire, lust and finally,frustration if not successful and you may go into a dejection/depression/revengeful mode.

As the ‘ wanting’ personality,you are always obsessed with more and more demands and quick & positive outcome.

You are restless.

Can you survive a good relationship?( Wife,relatives and friends ).

The relationship can go sour since you are not getting what you wanted and when you get,it becomes incomplete since you have newer demands cropping up.

You are unhappy all the time.Neither you make people around you happy.

So you make yours and other’s lives miserable.

The point I am stressing is that you lost your commonsense and fail to know the difference between ‘love’ and ‘desire

“Love lasts a longtime but burning desire lasts two to three weeks” Carla Bruni

At the end who is happy?


Now let us talk of ‘Giving’ personalities…

Let us say, now that you, the ‘giving’ type,and we all know naturally,you are the happiest person on the earth.

But note down.’Giving’ personalities are of different types because their ‘giving’ pattern depends on factors like faith,Fear,self serving and spontaneous

  1. Faith- These people have faith in God, and depending upon their religion philosophy,they donate some percentage of their earnings.and become the givers.
  2. Fear- comes to some,since many bad things happening in their lives,they make commitments to do some charity,hoping to get compensated by the Almighty and may derive some satisfaction.
  3. Self serving- these are greedy people in real sense and they indulge in ‘giving’, since they expect returns.Some say one can continue  one’s sins by religiously donating some percentage of one’s illegal earnings to temples,churches etc.
  4. Spontaneous-These ‘givers’ are emotional type and they don’t hesitate to donate (even if they are poor),whenever they come across emotional incidences,which require monetary help.

If you are a ‘giving’ person,you are said to be guy with a kind heart,you enjoy the ‘feel good’ factor,you have a fulfillment and finally total satisfaction .Wait…….

Are you sure whom to give,when to give and how much to give ?

My feeling is…. the ‘giver’ must be judicious.

1.If you belong to too much ‘giving’ type-people may take advantage and even misuse your kindness.

2. Your continuous ‘giving’ habit can bring down motivation among the ‘takers’ and they may become lazy.

3.If you happen to be ‘giving’ to the ‘wanting’ personalities,then you are doing a great harm to your philosophy.

So there is some ‘ART’ which you have to follow if you belong to ‘giving’ trait.

Thank you so much for taking your time to reach this point.

Do you agree that  most of us belong  to both categories with variation in intensity?

Please share your thoughts on this.

Inspiration- Swami Sukhabodhananda,Michele, Roya Rad,Guy Hatcher,pixabay

Thursday Thoughts

Life is a roller coaster

I have to tell you.Every day is a roller coaster ‘Rush Limbaugh’                 

Life is like a roller coaster.

You can either scream every time there is a bump or

You can throw your hands up and enjoy the ride.

Unknown

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Tension Free…. Stress Free…you think it’s a distant dream ?

As you are busy with fast paced life , you are left with lots of tension,anxiety resulting in stress.you start thinking as if all the problems happening to you only.

Just relax.All of are undergoing the same, at one time or the other.You can neither run away from the problems, nor start dreaming of positive thoughts,The two popular advices..easier said than followed…

Just listen to the quotes by unknown and known wise souls.

If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?

Worries and tensions are like birds , We cannot stop them from flying near us, But we can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.

The tension you feel from one person may be the tension you are causing for another.

Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.

Stress is the trash of modern life we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly, it will pile up and overtake your life.

Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. – Joshua L. Liebman

Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there.’
– Eckhart Tolle

How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterward.
– Spanish proverb

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The Two Popular Advices…Easier said than followed…

Be happy

1.Keep Smiling ( In other words Be Happy ).

Remember Bob Marleys song Don’t worry ,be happy ?

2.Think Positively ( in other words Lift yourself )

Both according to me are Myths.

Now let us analyse these two in the Real Life

Keep Smiling & Be Happy :

Happiness is a kind of Magnet, we get attracted .

we are used to believe that Happiness is achieved when we get things what we wished for and one can see the smile on our faces.

How long the happiness stays ? One minute,one day,one month,one year or through out our life ?

The demand for happiness is never ending.And the irony is ,you cann’t be happy all the time, since your wishes are unending.

Just think that

1.We can not control our thoughts,created at the time of unplesant happenings in our life.

2.You cann’t pretend to be happy when the results are not as per your plans.

3.What ever happens to you for whatever reason….You & I know that it’s only time being and life goes on with newer challenges to face.

4.When you are unhappy, consciously( outer world) you may give broad smile to others,but you cann’t defeat the thought of unhappiness,since discontent at subconscious ( inner world ) level is waiting to exploit the situation to further sadness..

5.Happily ever after happens only in ‘Fairy tales’ and in ‘Reel Life’ (Hollywood,Bollywood) rather than in ‘Real Life ‘

My take is ….. If you are Unhappy,Accept it,bear it and simply move on , rather than keeping the Fake Smile or acting brave etc.

Think Positively:

It is the single most influencing stuff ,storming the entire  world  and 21 century version of ‘Be happy’ model.

Think positively – is a kind of ‘Reassuring’ yourself that nothing is going to be wrong and the problems get solved themselves.Nothing more dangerous than this attitutde.

Remember your problem is yours alone,it is going to be there,and mere positive thinking not going to help and you alone have to solve the problem to get peace of mind.

Positive thinking

Inspiration-Rebecca Hass

So your mindset is more powerful than the routine ‘Be positive’ psyche. It is OK not to be positive at times,since the situation you are facing not necessary end in happiness.

My take is…..

If you have time and patience you can go through this link and realize why positive thinking is a waste of time and not practicle………  Don’t miss reading                               Steve Neale tells about the scandal of  ‘Positive Thinking’

The myth of positive thinking and the Universe

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through.