Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

credits& inspiration-Pixabay,hubspages, pinterest,quora,net

Day 3 Lyric Challenge

My sincere thanks to Rev. Paul for nominating me for a ‘3 day Lyric Challenge’

This is the 3 rd and final of the 3 day challenge

Please do check his wonderful blog at Parallax , the title of his blog, which is self explanatory,telling the readers that all of us have different views and opinions,just like Parallax and how we all can be compassionate and understanding and respect others view point. His other interests include social justice, inter-faith dialogue, environmentalism, and community development.
My choice for Day 3 and final lyrical Challenge is ‘Another day in Paradise’ by Phil Collins

Collins sings the song from a third-person perspective, as he observes a man crossing the street to ignore a homeless woman, and he implores listeners not to turn a blind eye to homelessness because, by drawing a religious allusion, “it’s just another day for you and me in paradise“. Collins also appeals directly to God by singing: “Oh Lord, is there nothing more anybody can do? Oh Lord, there must be something you can say.” (wikipedia)

Lyrics
She calls out to the man on the street
‘Sir, can you help me?
It’s cold and I’ve nowhere to sleep,
Is there somewhere you can tell me?’
He walks on, doesn’t look back
He pretends he can’t hear her
Starts to whistle as he crosses the street
Seems embarrassed to be there
Oh think twice, it’s another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, ’cause it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, think about it
She calls out to the man on the street
He can see she’s been crying
She’s got blisters on the soles of her feet
She can’t walk but she’s trying
Oh think twice, ’cause it’s another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, think about it
Oh Lord, is there nothing more anybody can do
Oh Lord, there must be something you can say
You can tell from the lines on her face
You can see that she’s been there
Probably been moved on from every place
Cause she didn’t fit in there
Oh think twice, ’cause another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, just think about it, think about it
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise, paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise, paradise
It’s just another day for you and me
It’s just another day for you and me
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
In paradise
To day my three nominees to this challenge are:
Rules:

1.Thank the person who nominated you.

2.Share one of your favorite song/lyrics one at a time for three days.

3.Nominate three other bloggers each day.

Dr.Sridhar

Philosophy Through Photography

Oh Life ! My Dear Life !

Dear life,My life,Survival of the fittest,run for dear life

RUN FOR ‘DEAR LIFE’

 “Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”

Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m)

How do you feel about modern life of human beings?

Any different from animals?

As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the  ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’?

I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out,   in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this.

Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.

 

Are you a ‘wanting’ or a ‘giving’ personality?

Not enough,greedy

“Enough of any thing is plenty.but plenty to some people is not enough”Sophie Irene Loeb

First let us talk about ‘Wanting’ personalities-

More money ,more popularity,more pleasure,more likes in social media,more than 1000 friends/follows in social media,more achievements ( though positive ),more power one can go on… and remember, we are never tired of ‘wanting’ more.This has become a human trait.

Why you want more and more …..and even more ?

Probably you fear the ‘uncertain’ future, probably you are ‘greedy’.

These things make you develop desire, lust and finally,frustration if not successful and you may go into a dejection/depression/revengeful mode.

As the ‘ wanting’ personality,you are always obsessed with more and more demands and quick & positive outcome.

You are restless.

Can you survive a good relationship?( Wife,relatives and friends ).

The relationship can go sour since you are not getting what you wanted and when you get,it becomes incomplete since you have newer demands cropping up.

You are unhappy all the time.Neither you make people around you happy.

So you make yours and other’s lives miserable.

The point I am stressing is that you lost your commonsense and fail to know the difference between ‘love’ and ‘desire

“Love lasts a longtime but burning desire lasts two to three weeks” Carla Bruni

At the end who is happy?


Now let us talk of ‘Giving’ personalities…

Let us say, now that you, the ‘giving’ type,and we all know naturally,you are the happiest person on the earth.

But note down.’Giving’ personalities are of different types because their ‘giving’ pattern depends on factors like faith,Fear,self serving and spontaneous

  1. Faith- These people have faith in God, and depending upon their religion philosophy,they donate some percentage of their earnings.and become the givers.
  2. Fear- comes to some,since many bad things happening in their lives,they make commitments to do some charity,hoping to get compensated by the Almighty and may derive some satisfaction.
  3. Self serving- these are greedy people in real sense and they indulge in ‘giving’, since they expect returns.Some say one can continue  one’s sins by religiously donating some percentage of one’s illegal earnings to temples,churches etc.
  4. Spontaneous-These ‘givers’ are emotional type and they don’t hesitate to donate (even if they are poor),whenever they come across emotional incidences,which require monetary help.

If you are a ‘giving’ person,you are said to be guy with a kind heart,you enjoy the ‘feel good’ factor,you have a fulfillment and finally total satisfaction .Wait…….

Are you sure whom to give,when to give and how much to give ?

My feeling is…. the ‘giver’ must be judicious.

1.If you belong to too much ‘giving’ type-people may take advantage and even misuse your kindness.

2. Your continuous ‘giving’ habit can bring down motivation among the ‘takers’ and they may become lazy.

3.If you happen to be ‘giving’ to the ‘wanting’ personalities,then you are doing a great harm to your philosophy.

So there is some ‘ART’ which you have to follow if you belong to ‘giving’ trait.

Thank you so much for taking your time to reach this point.

Do you agree that  most of us belong  to both categories with variation in intensity?

Please share your thoughts on this.

Inspiration- Swami Sukhabodhananda,Michele, Roya Rad,Guy Hatcher,pixabay

Power of Prayers

Prayers,God,Power of prayers

‘Power of Prayers can’t be explained.ButPower of Prayers can be experienced ‘. Unknown

If you can’t see light at the end of the tunnel, blast your way through the power of Prayers

Otherwise how you think the Thai kids along with their coach came out safely ?

How do you think Chilean or Chinese miners were saved ? How you think many impossibles become possible?

Prayers for Thai Kids & their coach

Pixabay/Inspiration-mottos for success aurora production.com

Before you Judge me……….

put yourself in someone's shoes,judgmental

“Always put yourself  in other peoples shoes” A well known Idiom

Joke part of the idiom

“Before you judge a man,walk a mile in his shoes.After that who cares?…He is a mile away and you’ve got his shoes”.   Billy Connolly.

Remember the the whole world revolves around the ‘mind set’ and  every thought that crosses your mind is influenced by the ‘PERCEPTION’ which is already settled in your mind that can influence the outcome.

Real part of the Idiom

Is this idea of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes …does this really works all the time ?

For this idiom to work, one must have a through knowledge about three things.1.Empathy. 2.Sympathy and 3. Compassion.

Unless one possesses these three qualities,the idiom does not serve the purpose. The help,what you think you are lending to the needy,need not necessarily be appreciated by the needy since Needy’s perception of your help may be different and sometimes just opposite.

How Putting Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes May Backfire

Can one survive without EGO ?

Ego

Ego, n. “A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance”

Everyone of us have some amount of ego,it’s a fact.
Let us accept it.

And if somebody claims that he or she is does not have ego,it’s certain that this person is lying.

Anyone who’s successful, whatever way it has been achieved has a certain amount of ego and it is the truth.

Ego is the illusion created by our thoughts and none of us are immune from it.

Even persons with humility,on occassion succumbs to Ego.

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

– C.S. Lewis

Dear friends what is your take on EGO ?

Talent is God-given, be humble.                                                                                           Fame is man-given, be thankful.                                                                                   Conceit is self-given, be careful.

John Wooden

Happiness is……….

1.The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,but in liking what one does.

‘James M. Barrie’

2.Doing what you like is freedom.Liking what you do is happiness.

‘Frank Tyger’

3.There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way.

‘Thich Nhat Nanh’

4. People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.

‘Abraham Lincoln’.

5.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle,and the life of the candle will not be shortened, happiness never decreases by being shared.

Buddha

“Before you judge me, please give Benefit of doubt, an opportunity”

Past deed

According to Oscar Wilde , the Great Poet & PlayWriter

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Do you agree ?

He says, it is the only way to judge the people

Personally I don’t agree.

Don’t you think people should be judged by the present actions and by the results produced by these actions (I mean good or bad),rather than past deeds?

If one looks into one’s past, be one’s childhood,adulthod,or middle age or old age,even centurion…..

One can find that, One is in the continuous learning process as the next second in One’s life becomes one’s immediate past

People can change for the good , as time goes?

Judging someone does not define who they are, it defines who you are

Your past mistakes are nothing but your  experiences ,making you move forward by the realisation of the facts and becoming a better person.                                                                                        ZExnQWFe-01.jpeg                                           Society too should be compassionate and not label the person in negativity forever.

 

Quotes-unknown

Devils Deep Discussion ( of scripture )

good vs bad

There is no neutral ground in the Universe:Every square inch,Every split second, is claimed by God and counter claimed by Satan. C.S.Lewis

There is always conflict between Good & Bad. Things are well discussed and dissected in   the religion,ethics,philosophy &  psychology.

Right from childhood we are taught to be good and  that good should prevail.

As kids we are taught by parents of virtues of being good.

But then some us continue to be good or turnout to be bad as per the society.Life is not      that simple to classify as who is good or who is bad.                                                                   Good Vs Bad

One loves to be good all the time,but circumstances can change ones’s intentions Humans are said to be unique in having ‘ conscience’, which separates them from ‘Animals’ and humans are capable of moral judgement.Many times ,one goes against ones’ conscience,and one alone can give the explanation,and also take responsibility.

Personally I believe majority of us belong neither to the extreme good nor extreme bad and lie somewhere in between.

Good Vs Bad

quoteprism

Finally we are the way we are and what is good to you, likely to be bad for others, and the conflict between God and Satan continues……..

 

Human being vs Being human

What is Human Being ?

Scientists call us Homo sapiens,a member of the Animal Kingdom,however we are fortunate and never addressed by a fellow human being as an animal.Human being is a complex matter, and nobody is able to figure it out.

May be a specialized animal,which can think,talk,express,and has bones and flesh.

Human being Vs being human

So what ? Other animals also can do these things,talk in their language,can communicate, have bones and flesh too .

May be we are the only animals that Laugh & Weep ! May be we are unique animal with ?? conscious . May be we have upright Stance etc.etc.

What is being Human ?

Being Human has a long definition One is easily tempted to define being human as one who is sensible to others pain,who is kind,compassionate,caring.helpful,devotional,merciful,not war mongering,,ethical, always on righteous path,generous,free from anger,jealousy,Oh! let me take a breath.You can further add etc.etc. All these good characters are supposed to be shown on the fellow Human beings.

So if a person has all the above qualities can we safely address this person as Being Human ?
I don’t think so and I feel that being human,no longer can be tagged with these qualities,but one should go beyond, I mean we should stretch the definition to the one who takes care of preserving Nature from being destroyed, and takes care of other living creatures( you name it…it’s there ) of God.

Desstruction of Nature

Being Being Human,also means to take care of the Nature,Nature in turn takes care of you

Some intelligent Human being even coined the term ‘Humane Killing’. It is said that by stunning the animal before killing is automatically Humane ( bad reputation for being Human ), since the animal suffers less in this method.Killing is killing and how can one justify ‘less suffering’. Suffering is suffering and nothing less or more in it.

Why can’t we Being Human,show the same kindness to animals what we supposed to show to other human beings ??

Humane Killing

How nice and kind if we behalve differently towards animals ?

Finally

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