Tomorrow……Real or just a perception ??

Tomorrow....real or just perception??

“This to-day of yours is the precious tomorrow of someone who passed away yesterday”– Diva

Note-We all Live in Hope, but as you know Hope can have  either positive or negative outcome.Instead why can’t we just pray  that everything will end well and complete the day with a positive note?I request the readers to read the following with a positive orientation.

Don’t  we live in permanent illusion of ‘Tomorrow’ ?

Is not your mind telling lies constantly about your tomorrow ?

Is it not a fact that you can’t see tomorrow,and none of us know or sure of its existence or even how it looks !

Then why you say ,tomorrow…I do this..I do that.. etc ?

Since none of us know anything about this extraordinary tomorrow, is it not meaningful to spend time today, to the best of our ability,living in every second,helping each other whatever way it is possible.

Now that you realized that there is no ‘tomorrow’,you can stop demanding things from God and start having faith in GOD and just start the day (ie today) by saying  ‘what ever happens to-day is for my good and rest God will take care’ and develop the philosophy ‘there is no other time better than this moment’.By this thought don’t you think you are liberated from all your tensions,anxieties and worries forever ?

Are we depriving the joy of  ‘today’ for the sake of ‘tomorrow’? Think that to-day belongs to you and you are  here to spread your faith & love.

Listen to some of the wise thoughts.

“There is no tomorrow.There is only a planet turning on its axis,and a creature given to optimistic fancies”. Robert Brault,rbrault.blogspot.com

 

“Tomorrow may never come to us. We do not live in tomorrow. We cannot find it in any of our title-deeds. The man who owns whole blocks of real estate, and great ships on the sea, does not own a single minute of tomorrow. Tomorrow! It is a mysterious possibility, not yet born. It lies under the seal of midnight–behind the veil of glittering constellations”.  E.H.Chaplin,Living words,notablequotes.com

 

“This day was yesterday tomorrow nam’d:
Tomorrow shall be yesterday proclaimed:
Tomorrow not yet come, not far away,
What shall tomorrow then be call’d? Today”.      Robert Owen,Today and Tomorrow,notablequotes.com

 

“People were always getting ready for tomorrow. I didn’t believe in that. Tomorrow wasn’t getting ready for them. It didn’t even know they were there”.    Cormac Mccarthy,The road,Notablequotes.com.  

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.Philosophy Through Photography

 

Life is short….but you can live longer👍

Life is short...but you can live longer,long life
It’s a 3.4 minute read

The other day one of our exceptionally brilliant readers wondered, how the time is running so fast,we are in the middle of January,still we are dreaming….as if we celebrated new year just yesterday…is this not scarring? Life is moving so fast, refusing to wait !
I felt … it’s true

And shortly…the spring will run into summer and Summer chasing Fall and Fall merging with Winter in no time and soon we celebrate Christmas and eagerly waiting for the safe delivery of 2020 and in between many will be in touch with the Creator…
Then the thought of why can’t we live longer lingered in my mind!
Yes.Why not ?
All of you know life is awesome !

If you ask ,each one gives their own many reasons as to why they love to live longer.Very few say they want to die earlier.

Don’t you think there is so much of unfulfilled wishes to be full filled?
There is so much to do,so much to see,so much to enjoy,so much to learn,so much to discuss,so many new People to meet,new friends,new thoughts,new experiences….
…..oh my life ! My dear life…..and you think just 70-80 yrs of life is sufficient ?

There won’t be negative feelings or sadness or sorrow if one were to live forever.Of course ones health should be good,but this is possible as science is advancing and most probably in 2100 death can be delayed indefinitely.

But why you don’t want to die ?

It’s very simple my friend.Death means, all your taste for enjoying the good life gone.You miss the beauty of universe.You miss your near and dear.you miss unfinished jobs.you miss, loving your sweetheart.

OK.But Why do you wish to live forever ?

I have an answer.

Modern age is better than Iron age.Iron age was better than bronze age.Bronze age was better than stone age.
As things become better and better ,we wish to live longer.We starts inventing things where in death can be delayed.As technology advances,they day may not be far,where death can become optional.

What is the present scenario ?

  1. Living forever is not possible, but living longer is possible (quora)
  2. Eat & Drink Healthy
  3. Have sound mind and you can take correct decisions.
  4. Have a good social life.Have limited number of friends,who value the meaning of life just like you.
  5. Remember not to possess anger & Ego
  6. When you get up in the morning,first thing you do is to remember God and express your gratitude ,since you are breathing and lucky to be alive. 153,424 people won’t see another tomorrow ( WHO)

If you want to live longer – watch this clip. (  3 minute Video )

Thank you    Philosophy Through Photography

I have no Self-ie Control

I don't have self-ie control

With the selfies, a photographer has finally found his place in a photograph. Amit Kalantri

Professional Photographers can make a real kill,because of selfies.

As an amateur photographer,I realized that selfie makes one’s life miserable.

1.Selfies distort your face by 30 % .The truth is you look ugly.people are dejected for this and try to avoid the world.

2.Selfie face distortion making people do nose jobs and plastic surgeons have become busy .Some body even inventing app( commercialization),which is supposed to correct the distortion

3. People becoming obsessed and in the process getting depressed.

4. As a medical professional,I can tell you that regular usage of selfie can give you SELFIE WRIST, an emerging hazard in this digital era.Selfie wrist causes pain,numbness and tingling sensation in the hand.( carpal tunnel syndrome)
Doctor warns-rise in cases of selfie wrist

5.Hundreds and thousands are getting killed while trying to take selfies with India in the lead,followed by Russia.USA and Pakistan.
List of selfie related injuries and deaths ( Oct 2011-Jan 2019)

I conclude..

“The inventor of the mirror poisoned the human heart”.

Fernando Pessoa wiseoldsayings.com

Bullshit In the guise of True Love !

Bullshit in the guise of true love.

The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you. ‘unknown’

See this clip(117 seconds) before you proceed further.

Does true love exist? I dare !

Rabbi Dr.Abraham calls’Love out of selfishness’ is a Fish Love.He

says”Fish love is poisoning marriages,damaging homes and breaking

hearts”.

Sex,money or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

you may blast me that ….I am,atrocious,stone-hearted, silly, crazy, cruel,disgusting and disappointing but I am not dejected,because one day you realize that none can show the true love without expecting something in return. And that day,you are sure to remember me!The love what you expect / or given is nothing but ‘fake love !

In this world no body is willing to give unconditional love,though they can, if really they want,but they won’t because of the inherent selfishness.

I shall give just 2 examples.My discussion is limited to so called ‘unbreakable human love’

1.Romanticizing love.(couples)

‘I love you beyond eternity’,

‘If loving is wrong,then I don’t want to be right ‘

‘My love for you is a journey starting at forever & ending never.

‘You’re the first boy I ever kissed Jake,and I want you to be the last'(hollywood dialogue-movie-sweet home Alabama)

‘I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met'( movie-wedding date)

If these things are true….Why you see so many cases of divorces?

2.If true love were there( parents vs children)…

Why there are so many old age homes and homes for destitute ? And what about.. Orphanage,Children homes ?

Ron Leighman in Quora (on love is bullshit)
“Because love is a fraudulent emotion, it doesn’t exist. They say the love you Blah blah blah. Then once you get/give them what they want they kick you to the curb like yesterdays garbage. You may as well expect it because it will happen. Expect it then you feel no pain when it happens”.

Are we into the ‘Fantasy Love’?

“Of all the lies you told me….’I love you’ was my favorite”.
Unknown

True love is possible only when the people concerned are mature enough ( this happens as they age ) to see both sides of the point of view.

Finally,the difference between True Love & Pure Love.

True Love may not be possible all the time ,but Pure Love is possible.

 

Loving what you get is compromise.

Getting what you love is Success.

Loving without caring whether you will get it or not is true love.

Loving even after you knowing that you won’t get it..is pure love.

Unknown

 

credits& inspiration-Pixabay,hubspages, pinterest,quora,net

Family Quarrel

family quarrel

No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com

Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.

Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com

It is a disagreement about something.

Why we quarrel in the very first place ?

Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.

Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.

The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.

The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.

The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.

Whenever there is dispute remember,

“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown

What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,

“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,

When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?

You know the old adage

“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”

In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.

How best to avoid family quarrels ?

Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )

1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.

2.Be a good listener.

3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.

4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.

5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.

6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.

7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.

8.Put yourself in the others shoes.

9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.

10.forget & forgive

11.Take it easy.

12.Have faith in the Lord.

“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown

What are your thoughts ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

image credits-pixabay, -quoteswiseoldsayings.com

Does your mind wander during prayers ?

grayscale photography of man sitting on grass field

 

Are you able to concentrate on God and Just God alone and pray without any thoughts interfering the prayers ?

1.Are you the one doing just lip movements while praying,but wander in a different world full of one thought jumping over to the next?

2.This split second intrusion of your thoughts (whether negative or positive) during prayers really haunting you ? Is this making you guilty ?
If it is so, believe me …..you are not alone.

Is it because our brains have multiple components,each doing different jobs in quick succession, thus making us, difficult to concentrate ?

Are these intrusive thoughts, a basic human nature ? ( since we can not stop thoughts from the brain)

Can you control your mind when you are already burdened with your ‘Life’ ? (burden of life is a reality for all of us).

Is it possible to override these thoughts ?

How to solve this problem ?

So many questions…..but I am finding very difficult to get one perfect answer (though plenty of answers are available on the net,which I am not convinced) which helps to really concentrate on God nothing but God .
I don’t have an answer.Do you have one ? Please guide me.

Some say Meditation helps

“The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts,it is to stop letting them control you”

theageofenlightement

Again I am not sure of Meditation and how it can help control ones’ mind,since mind sprouts the thoughts continuously.Mind won’t keep quite Even during the sleep, we are troubled by the thoughts in the form of Dreams!

My guess is just ignore them.And Pray God to put an end to these interfering thoughts.Or appeal to God for forgiveness and say “I trust you and I surrender”

Once we surrender with sincerity,God will appreciate.
Please share your thoughts and any solution ( I mean based on your experience), if at all available.Thank you in advance.

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Which face you will wear to day ?

This is a 3 minute read,

“Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.”Mark Twain

I am not talking of the personality disorder which we come across in the Medical World…..I am talking about the normal,perfect down to earth gentlemen and gentlewomen, who invariably have two faces,sometimes many faces ( multifaceted indeed! )

“Everyone  has two faces but often we see only one side of them,so never judge anyone by their looks,because ,truth might surprise you” !    ‘unknown’

Have you any time seriously gazed your soul ?

I think we are all not just actors but great actors.Some examples,

1.You agree with me that wives hide (secrets) things from husbands, and husbands hide things from wives,but each will be talking to other sweetly and kindly.

2.All Men talk differently when they are with wives,and when the wives are not around.(men there… ..you know what I mean )

3. We preach our kids,but practice quite opposite.

4.Young boys and girls as lovers,constantly lie to each other which suits the situation.

5.We shout at our children and wives for no fault of theirs,but show sweet face to the boss,in spite of getting abused.

6.Married men ,when they come across a single woman, try,to attract her attention,but when wives are with them…it is a different behavior !

7.Our offline behavior is in contrast to our online behavior.You may be a beggar in real life ,but on social media you flaunt all your richness from nowhere !

8. You can see ,Professional child kidnapper/killer is a dedicated father to his kids.

I can go on and on…..

We all wear masks.

Let us be frank.And that is the way of life ! And we have to live that life if we want to survive in this wretched world.

And the worst part,you know…..even with God we play our duality !

“There’s a duality of a guy calling on God: ‘Where are you when I need you’ and the,at the same time .’God helps those who helps themselves.’…I think that contradiction does exist in all of us ,those of faith and those who profess to have no faith.  ‘JoeCornahan’

Now that we realized that all of us have two faces( dual personalities)….now it becomes even more scary.

“It’s not about who’s real to your face,

It’s about who’s real behind your back”   unknown

So be busy checking your back frequently !

And wishing and praying that, let 2019 bring just the single and original face of ours all the time !

Thank you  Philosophy through photography

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Have you ever hugged a troll ??

Troll

How to win war on internet trolls?

This article is a 2.5 minute read.

This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits)

But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls.

Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever.

You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore.

Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony ( sadist ), or they hurt the feelings out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity.

If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ?

Very simple.

Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react!

There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version)

1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind.

2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug.

Time to Hug

Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients.

‘unknown’

Healing Hug

Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for.

And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one

‘Unknown’

We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends !

How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? lease share your experiences.

Image source © Dr.Sridhar, 2018

All Rights Reserved

Forgotten hygiene

“Take care of your body.

It’s the only place you have to live”

Jim Rohn

Good health is not just regular exercise or eating healthy food….

This topic is a 4 minute read.

So read this post completely , in case you got  just that much time.

Otherwise take your own time whenever you are free to read.

Some of my regular friends in WP wondered as to why I am not contributing some useful medical stuff,being in the Medical profession.

I understand,but as you already know there is a wealth of information already available on the net, and my wish, not to crowd the space further.But still I try to add one or two helpful topics.This is my 2 nd post, and the earlier post being,

Something we have been doing wrong all along

Everyone of us…I am sure ,aware of importance of Hygiene.

All of us are busy teaching our young ,the importance of not just hygiene,but also personal hygiene.

Some examples of personal hygiene include

Regular bath,Regular brushing the teeth along with flossing,Trimming the nails,Regular washing of the hands,Regular shaving of arm pit and pubic hair,trimming the nostril hair,women maintaining hygiene during menstrual time(just washing with fresh water),for men in non circumcision cases thoroughly removing the smegma,anal hygiene (washing with fresh water after defecation),keeping our nostrils clean,cleaning the external ear pits regularly etc.etc

But surprisingly our teaching to the kid  never includes HYGIENE of the Belly Button or Navel which in the medical world it is known by the name umbilicus.

How many of you stand in front of the mirror and just have a look at the belly button on a regular basis ? (Navel gazing literally !! )

Belly button,as you all know is the scar left behind by the umbilical cord Which gets removed after birth.

OK, as you are aware as the stump of the umbilical cord gets dried up it forms a pit during the process of healing.

Is there any purpose of the belly button after birth ?

Yes.

1.Medically

It helps in dividing the abdomen into quadrants,1.helping the physician to identify the cause of the symptom,2. can be used for blood transfusion in the new-born,3.Helpful for having laparoscopic ports.4.Any bulge of the navel indicates intra abdominal pathology.

2.Fashion ,society and culture

includes Midriff,

Crop-top

Navel-piercing

Belly Dance

Why Hygiene of belly button important ?

1. Belly button (pit) is a source of 2,368 different species of bacteria/fungi ,waiting to strike at the next available opportunity.

2. If you are male and hairy, or a person with belly button piercing,or you are a person in the habit of liberally spraying  talcum powder on your body, you can notice over the time collection of the lint or fluff ( a mixture of cloth fibers,hair follicles) and over the time it becomes smelly and ripe for bacterial/fungal infection and later pus formation.

3. The deeper your belly button pit,the greater the collection of dirt and germs, and just like these germs make your armpit smelly, here also the germs along with dirt collection give a foul smell and soon you can notice redness of the surrounding skin,pain and even pus discharge.

Notice above how the Lint/Fluff appears.The example above is large enough to be visualised.Intially it is small in size difficult to visualise.

Fortunately hygiene aspect of belly button is easy,only if we care to follow on a regular basis.

Just watch this video and learn how to clean the belly button. ( 1 mt-40 seconds clip)

Thank you for your patient reading !

My post is incomplete if I don’t mention One Australian Gentleman by name Graham Barkers,who holds the world record for collecting his own navel fluff stuff (lint) every day for 26 years.Check the following link.

Librarian enters Guinness book of world records for collecting belly button fluff

Navel fluff/lint

Navel fluff/lint source -feargod.net/fluff

 

IS pixabay derivative,sridhar,youtube,feargod.net/fluff

It has always been you and it will always be you….

Loyalty

“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”                                                                                                                         – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.com

 

When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,

You are never truly alone,

I am still there for you

Take a moment,right here ,right now,

and thank them for that

No mater how bad your day is,

there is always a happy face

waiting for you

to get home.

‘unknown’

 

 

 

To me ‘drink responsibly’ means don’t spill it!!

Responbile drinking

When you make tough choices,try to imagine if you will regret it in 10 years ‘pinterest’

 

Life is a series of choices.The choices we make now affect the options

avaiable for the next round of choices.T.J.Taylor

 

You say it’s your life,therefore your decisions,but are you aware that your

choices will not affect only you,but also those around you,who care and

love you dearly even if you aren’t aware of that.So make the right decision

and choices in life to make not only yourself proud and happy but also

those around you. Unknown

 

We all make choices,But in the end our choices make usRitu Ghatourey

Source-Searchquotes.com

Love is scarce- Really ?

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we

never give enough of is love.

Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.

There are 7 types of love.

  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)

( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)

My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?

” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.

  In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett

So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day to day problems faced by the couple,thus making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.

Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.

But here is the hitch.

The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.

Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this disease before it strikes us ?

When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc….why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you

are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)

Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.

True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and

Ego gives you, all the heartache.

“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

 

Are you the ‘Difficult Spouse’ ?

Unhappy coule
Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!

If you are a wife or husband and on many occasions you think you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.

I am thankful to you if you felt there is something wrong in either of the parties and the mistake can be rectified easily.

There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?)

1.Love marriage

2.Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries )

Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible.

In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues.

But we all know the truth.

One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’

The reality of the so-called colourful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first !

Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available

  1. You decided you are not going to adjust at all...then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make.
  2. If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion ) and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse….thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary.

Why to quarrel at all in the first place ?

Now it’s time to think.

1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya )
2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work

together for the success of their married life.

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiastes4.9-10

3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly.

4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer.

5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second.

Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted.

Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments

Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault )

Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge

Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong.

Constantly tell to yourself….

Forget & forgive,

I can go also wrong,

live & let live,

let us make best,out of the difficult situation,

I trust you.

Finally

I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?”
Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing?” – MarriageHumor, Instagram

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.-yourtango.com

A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. – Happy Wives Club

Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. – Ngina Otiende

 

Any thoughts on being the Difficult Spouse ?

which of the above quotes ,you thing sends the perfect message ?

Thanks for being a patient reader and reaching this point.

Pixabay,Curiano.com

Love pain-how strong you are ?

Love pain

The most beautiful line is ” But I love you ” The most painful line is “I love you ,but..”

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Kindly Ones

Pixabay,relatably.com

Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,(ie,the King is always right).

Blame game

A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs

Blame Game

Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )

Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.

The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong !

Why it is so ? Let us think.

We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.

By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.

“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.

Narrator Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series

Remember,

Blame is fascinating –

“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.

Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”       Wayne Dyer

Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?

Please share your views.

IS-PublicDomainPictures- pixabayWayne Dyer

 

That precious time……between life and death…What can happen ?

That precious time between life & death

There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.                     Tennessee Williams

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Don’t you agree that,We have to leave things to the decision of the Almighty instead of questioning His wisdom ?

“What have you lost that you cry for?

What did you bring, that you have lost?

What did you create that was destroyed?

What you have taken has been from here, what you gave has been given here.

What belongs to you today belonged to someone yesterday and will be someone else’s tomorrow.

Change is the law of the universe”.

Bhagavad-Gita

What has to happen will happen for good or bad and let us accept things with folded hands by surrendering to His wishes. And His Wishes can not be explained or questioned  or analyzed as to the logic. I mean if something bad/good  happening……just leave things to His wisdom.

Just let things  go ….as it happens !

If you think I am  crazy….it’s OK

Image Pixabay

 

 

Ignore the ‘Agressive World’

Agressive world

When an obnoxious and aggressive world displays its nuttiness just say to yourself, “I have

nothing to say to that.”

 

The world cries, “Give me your agreement or your disagreement but

whatever you do, don’t ignore me!”

 

Intelligently notice both outer and inner darkness then quietly ignore it. Switch your

attention back to the present moment with this powerful self-talk statement. You have

higher things to think about and darkness’s anguish is not your concern. Every “success”

darkness has is based on convincing you that its anguish is your concern. It wants you

involved with it, fighting it, trying to help it. Dare to reply instead, “I have nothing to say to

that!”

 

As The Daily Guru said once, “The resistance to the disturbance IS the disturbance.” Work

with this exercise this week. Notice how good you start to feel as you cease throwing fuel

on the initial disturbances – all those tiny little outer and inner fires that are very

significant until you react to them.

creditsThe Daily Guru

Image Ashish_Choudhary,Pixabay.

‘Why not me God’ instead of ‘Why me God’ ?

Why not me instead why me ?,life

Why not me instead of why me ?

Pinterest

Existence is a strange bargain.Life owes us little;we owe it everything. The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.

William Cowpe

Every one has to face some problem or other.   

Describing somebody that ‘the fellow is born with silver spoon’ is utter rubbish.

Everybody has to undergo suffering.

Whether the person suffers from cancer or just mild fever,or any other reason doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is rich or poor,doesn’t matter.

Good or bad doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is pious or unholy ,doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is criminal or law-abiding doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is moral or immoral doesn’t matter.

Whether a new born suffers or a 100+ old person suffers doesn’t matter.

I can go on and on….

The point I am trying to stress is ,there is no escape from suffering once you are born.

The only difference is , some suffer more and some suffer less.

Again I don’t have an answer.

Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome. Isaac Asimov

When one suffers,the first question one puts invariable is “Oh God ! why me ?” as if one is pure (at heart on par with Almighty), and rest of the population deserves to suffer.

Remember there are others in this world,whose suffering is more than yours.

Instead,why can’t one boldly say ” why not me ?”

By saying so, Are we not gaining confidence in ourselves to face the eventuality ?

To be frank, why should one get exemption from suffering in one’s life ?

Is this not God’s way of telling us to be

Brave,

Develop courage,

Search for solutions( inventions,science etc)

Improve inner strength,

Understand the meaning of life ( philosophy),

Know the value of time.

So we are thankful to the Almighty for giving us an opportunity to survive and gain strength from sufferings.

So our thoughts should be

Why not me instead of why me ?

Pixabay derivative,Beastmotivation.com

What are your thoughts ?

Do you agree or You do not ?

If you do not agree what is the reason ?

Inspiration- Anamika’s Blog

Michael Horner

Can you promise,you are loyal?

LoyalPeople lie. They use you and they lie, all the while feeding you bullshit about

being loyal and never leaving you. No one can make that promise, because life

is all about seasons, and seasons change.

Tarryn Fisher
May be the statement is correct as for as humans are concerned.But


for me my Loyal friend is my Doberman.Loyal Friend

Just remember, there’s a right way and a wrong way to do everything and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.  -M*A*S*H*, Colonel Potter

Right & Wrong

I want to correct you since you are wrong,but you say,I am to be corrected first.Who is right? and who will decide ?

 

1.‘I think there is a tendency for people to get rigid and caught up in their beliefs of what is right and wrong, and they lose sight of humanity. Being human has to come first before right or wrong”. –Matisyahu

2.The opposite of a correct statement is a false statement.  But the opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound truth.  –Niels Bohr

3.When I’m right no one remembers,When ‘m wrong,no one forgets.-source-blogspot

4.Do or Do not.There is no try –Dumbledore

5.Revenge converts a little right into a great wrong- Proverb

6.There are two sides to every issue:One sie is right and the otheris wrong,but the middle is always evil-Ayn Rand

7.Love keeps no record of wrongs-picturequotes.com

8.Nature does not make mistakes,right & wrong are human categories-Frank Herbert,picturequotes.com

9.We have to live today by what truth we can get today and be ready tomorrow to call it falsehood. William James

 

 

 

‘Observations’ of Beer Holder

Beer

‘There are two reasons for drinking.

One is ,when you are thirsty,to cure it.

The other when you are not thirsty, to prevent it ……’

alcoholsayings.com

“To believe with certainty we must begin with doubting.” ~Stanislaus I of Poland

Doubtful,doubting,creepy

What is that Stanislaus trying to convey ?

He says, to be certain you have to be doubtful !

First of all if you decided  to believe in something ,why should  you be doubtful or apprehensive ? Are you not sure of yourself ?

Is this a contradictory statement or it is a perfect statement ?

Readers please enlighten me further with your thoughts.

We see What we want to see & feel great about ourselves…. (and love to remember the Almighty only during agony)

Maya ( Illusion)

In the recent discussion in blog articles about ‘Truth’ and meaning of ‘Absolute truth’ and ‘Relative truth, I realized that we forgot to discuss the role of ‘Maya’ ( illusion). Recently I came across an article in op ed of Deccan Chronicle,and thought it’s apt to understand the meaning of Maya  (illusion),in our day to day life’ by sharing the same .

Before we proceed further, you should know that Sudama, is a childhood friend of Hindu Deity Lord Krishna.

One day Sudama wished to have a glimpse of God’s Maya (illusion). He had heard a lot about Maya but never understood what it was as he was always surrendered to God.

One day, he finally asked Lord Krishna, “What is Maya? What is the form of Maya? How does Maya untangle a man?” He directly sought answers of these questions from Lord Krishna and kept requesting him to show a glimpse of Maya.

Lord Krishna replied that when time comes he shall give him the answers and also show him Maya.

Then he said, “Let us go to Yamuna to take bath.”  Both of them came to the banks of Yamuna to take bath. After taking bath, Lord Krishna started dressing in Yellow and in the meantime Sudama went to take a dip in water.

At the time of taking dip, Sudama felt that the river was flooded and he was being washed away in it. With great difficulty, by taking the help of a small Rock he came out of the river.

Perplexed and hungry, Sudama was roaming about and finally reached a village. There, an elephant garlanded him. People informed him that their King had died and it is their country’s rule that after the death of their king, whosoever is garlanded by the elephant would be the next king.

The coronation ceremony of Sudama was done.

After sometime, he got married and had two sons during the twelve years of his married life.

Thereafter, one day his wife passed away. Sudama started weeping in sorrow. People tried to console him.

They informed him that it was Mayapuri’s rule that he too would be sent wherever his wife went. He too would have to enter his wife’s funeral pyre.

Sudama was shell shocked to hear this. Now, he forgot mourning the demise of his wife and started weeping for himself. He said that since he was a foreigner, this rule should not be applicable to him.

When people did not listen to him and were making him sit in the pyre, he requested for permission to worship the river once last time. People allowed him to do that and sent four people to keep an eye on him.

Sudama could see death approaching him and in this fear, chanting Lord Krishna’s name, he took a dip in the river and came out crying. Just then, he saw Lord Krishna Standing and getting dressed in yellow. Lord Krishna asked Sudama as to why was he weeping.

Sudama was already stunned and when he saw Lord Krishna he was astonished too. He asked Krishna “Where did all that vanish? What all is happening? I am not able to understand anything.”

Lord Krishna said, “This is my Maya.” Maya means “forgetfulness”. Illusion, unreal, myth, ignorance, etc. are Maya. One who forgets me, the God, and thinks that the world is the only truth and is always engrossed in it, he is entrapped in Maya. Deeming the unrealistic world as real and considering Paramatma and self as to dual entities is Maya.

Despite living in the materialistic world, Maya could not touch Sudama till he was devoted or surrendered towards God but as soon as he forgot the God, he was trapped in Maya . In the same manner, worldly man forgetting God, gets entangled in Maya and spends the whole life experiencing joys and sorrows.

Despite living in the materialistic world, if we think of God at every moment (which is possible) then along with enjoying the bliss of God, we can live our worldly life too to the fullest.

Source Deccan chronicle – op ed

“In the world of relative truths and opinions, many opinions, viewpoints, possibilities and probabilities can coexist, and each can stand on its own merits in particular contexts and conditions. This is the truth of Truth. Every truth or principle is a possibility in some context, condition or situation. Sometimes you may find it worth fighting for and sometime not. Truth is an undulating wave on the surface of impermanence. You may call it by any name, but we consider it to be Maya, the deluding power of existence which hides in the play of light and shadow to create the illusion of something or the other. You will find it only in the unstable currents of life just as the sun light that reflects upon the waters of an ocean, but you cannot truly grasp its brilliance or immensity until you cross those waters and stand on the shore. ” Jayaram V.

Google images-Source-Apnisanskriti.com

 

God vs Us

A man walked to the top of a hill to talk to God

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Can you outsmart the smarttest ?

The man asked, “God,

what’s a million years to you?” and God said, “A minute.”

Then the man asked, “Well, what’s a million dollars to you?” and

God said, “A penny.”

Then the man asked, “God…..can I have a penny?” and God said,

“Sure…..in a minute.”

Is man born WILY ??

What are your thoughts ?

Pareidolia

Any Idea what Pareidolia means ?

I did not know till I googled and found out the meaning ,when I started searching for how and why the Human beings are capable of weird imaginations of things that we see and ….I stumbled upon this terminology.

According to rationalwiki

Pareidolia is the phenomenon of recognizing patterns, shapes, and familiar objects in a vague and sometimes random stimulus.

It’s the result of your brain trying to “make sense” of input that really has no sense to find in it.

This is seen often in inkblot tests, where random splatters of ink suggest different images to different people (look, it’s a conspiracy: they’re all deliberately made to look like vaginas!) but also in cases of people seeing visions, ghosts, and other likenesses in what are actually just random patterns that happen to look like those things.

It’s part of the recurring discussion of representation in art ( The Treachery of Images) and is a fundamental component to understanding the philosophy behind modern art
It’s a psychological phenomenon that causes some people to see or hear a vague or random image or sound.

Seeing animals in clouds,or a face or rabbit in the moon are examples of Pareidolia.

Here I am posting 5 photos of clouds and let me know Which

animal/creature/soul you are imagining in this cloud formation.You

may differ the way I imagined.Feel free to tell what you imagined.

I am giving names based on my imagination.
Example 1.

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animals

Can I say Bear & its Cub ?

Example 2.

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

What about this one ?

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

Pegasus

Example 3.

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

And this one ?

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

Pomeranian dog advising its puppy

Example 4.

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

What do you imagine in this ?

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

I imagine a Dragon,swallowing the Sun

Example 5.

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

Now you can easily guess…

Pareidolia,imaginations,clouds,animal faces,faces

Devil from the Hell threatening earthlings

What is your story ? What is your weird imagination of these 5 examples . Please share your thoughts.

https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Pareidolia

http://earthsky.org/human-world/seeing-things-that-arent-there

Thursday Thoughts

Good morning,Thursday thoughts,quotes

Good morning

Good Morning

Welcome Every morning with a smile.

Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another Golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday.

Be a self starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day.

Today Will Never Happen Again. Don’t Waste it with a false start or no start at all.

You Were Not Born To Fail.

Og Mandino

Day 3 Lyric Challenge

My sincere thanks to Rev. Paul for nominating me for a ‘3 day Lyric Challenge’

This is the 3 rd and final of the 3 day challenge

Please do check his wonderful blog at Parallax , the title of his blog, which is self explanatory,telling the readers that all of us have different views and opinions,just like Parallax and how we all can be compassionate and understanding and respect others view point. His other interests include social justice, inter-faith dialogue, environmentalism, and community development.
My choice for Day 3 and final lyrical Challenge is ‘Another day in Paradise’ by Phil Collins

Collins sings the song from a third-person perspective, as he observes a man crossing the street to ignore a homeless woman, and he implores listeners not to turn a blind eye to homelessness because, by drawing a religious allusion, “it’s just another day for you and me in paradise“. Collins also appeals directly to God by singing: “Oh Lord, is there nothing more anybody can do? Oh Lord, there must be something you can say.” (wikipedia)

Lyrics
She calls out to the man on the street
‘Sir, can you help me?
It’s cold and I’ve nowhere to sleep,
Is there somewhere you can tell me?’
He walks on, doesn’t look back
He pretends he can’t hear her
Starts to whistle as he crosses the street
Seems embarrassed to be there
Oh think twice, it’s another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, ’cause it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, think about it
She calls out to the man on the street
He can see she’s been crying
She’s got blisters on the soles of her feet
She can’t walk but she’s trying
Oh think twice, ’cause it’s another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, think about it
Oh Lord, is there nothing more anybody can do
Oh Lord, there must be something you can say
You can tell from the lines on her face
You can see that she’s been there
Probably been moved on from every place
Cause she didn’t fit in there
Oh think twice, ’cause another day for you and me in paradise
Oh think twice, it’s just another day for you,
You and me in paradise, just think about it, think about it
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise, paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise, paradise
It’s just another day for you and me
It’s just another day for you and me
It’s just another day for you and me in paradise
In paradise
To day my three nominees to this challenge are:
Rules:

1.Thank the person who nominated you.

2.Share one of your favorite song/lyrics one at a time for three days.

3.Nominate three other bloggers each day.

Dr.Sridhar

Philosophy Through Photography

Oh Life ! My Dear Life !

Dear life,My life,Survival of the fittest,run for dear life

RUN FOR ‘DEAR LIFE’

 “Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up. It knows it must move faster than the lion or it will not survive. Every morning a lion wakes up and it knows it must move faster than the slowest gazelle or it will starve. It doesn’t matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, when the sun comes up, you better be moving.”

Maurice Greene (attributed to Roger Bannister shortly after running the first sub-4 m)

How do you feel about modern life of human beings?

Any different from animals?

As human beings we don’t literally do running, but Are we not into the  ‘Rat race’ to ‘Survive’ at the cost of ‘peace of mind’ & ‘lack of Sleep’?

I am trapped into the rat race…which doesn’t seem to end,neither I am able to come out,   in the middle of the race because there are no referees to allow this.

Please Give me your thoughts on how we are different and busy clinging to our lives,without any purpose.

 

Accept it.We all indulge in ‘Blame Game’

Blame game

Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right.

Narrator-Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series
Remember,

Blame is fascinating – it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides.
Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.” Wayne Dyer
Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?
Please share your views.

IS-Splitshire pixabay

U & I

You & I,Friendship.friends

To have this life,I need a heart beat, To have a heart beat ,I need a heart, To have a heart.I need happiness. To have happiness,I need You

U & I

Letters start with A-B-C

Numbers start with 1-2-3

Music starts with Do-Re-Mi

And Friendship starts with u & I

 

Wishing all the best to all of you my friends and may all your wishes be fulfilled.

 

Quote-pinterest

 

Dear Selfie you’re my True killfie

Selfie deaths

pixabay derivative Moritzin & BogdanaLS

Looks like milleneals are outsmarting  the Greek Mythology character Narcissus with their selfie obsession.Who doesn’t admire  own face ??

You may even call it ‘Selfiecide”

Twitter has hashtag   Killfie

Is this an obscession or passion or ego or attitude or some psychological disorder(OCD)…difficult to pin point.

Two types of Killfies

  1. Single selfie causing single death.
  2. Single selfie causing multiple deaths.

No idea why maximum deaths are happening in India !

Is there any such thing called positive addiction ?

Positive addiction,addiction,negative addiction

The word ADDICTION sends jitters down the spines.

I know you started thinking of drugs,smoking,alcohol,gambling,sex,pornography,food,video games…..and the list goes on.

Human being is not immune to ‘weakness’.The greatness lies making the weakness into positive Strength.

Have we to think of addiction only in negative term ?

Can addiction be ‘Positive’ ?

Can’t we have ‘positive addiction’ ?

Example- People in order to to maintain a healthy life style may indulge in having

1.Vitamins.2.Fruits.3.Regular exercises.4.Body building 5 .consumption of water.6.Taking up the job, you are passionate.7.Reading.8.Spending more of family time.9.Dancing.etc.etc

Positive addiction is supposed to bring health ,happiness,strength,famiy bond,contentment,appreciation of the magnanimity of the Almighty,improve the wisdom and spirituality,above all bring the ‘Feel good factor ‘.

Remember not to over do it.Otherwise it becomes negative addiction.

I feel one can have ‘positive addiction’ without the component of ‘Negative consequences

Finally a question to the readers….

Can you name ‘healthy behaviour’ as ‘Positive Addiction’ ?

Is not ‘positive addiction’ contradicting the very definition of addiction ?

According to Wikipedia Addiction is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences”.

Please enlighten me further.

Inspiration- William Glasser, Pixabay

Are you still in the ‘Rat race’ ?

Rat race,compition,survival

“People here are funny. They work so hard at living, they forget how to live.” ― Robert Riskin,derivative Pixabay

‘Rat Race’ according to Wikipedia

A rat race is an endless, self-defeating, or pointless pursuit. The phrase equates humans to rats attempting to earn a reward such as cheese, to no avail. It may also refer to a competitive struggle to get ahead financially or routinely.

Do I remember,when I joined the rat race ?

I am not sure,but I can recollect 1.My school days. 2.My college days.3 As an employee/consultant & 4. As I am aging.
My school days

school days,rat race,competition

picturequotes.com

I hate to get up early in the morning,but sadly that is the routine.With Heavy school bag and daily grinding,it used to be a tiresome job.
And remember plenty of examination schedules and so much pressure from parents,to get the first rank ,not in one subject but all the subjects and throughout schooling and the competition among students was heavy,as to who gets the first rank,so that one can be in good books of the teachers,principal etc.
Even in the school sports schedules, there is no let up.One has to get some medal without fail.
So much of rat race in schooling days.Why the rat race in schools ?Any idea ? It’s only for better ranking so that admission to my preferred colleges is easier.
My college days
Those days
Parents wished me to become a doctor since it was a respectable profession in the society and also better financial prospects.
To get an admission into the Medical college is the toughest compared to getting admission into the Engineering course.So To fulfill my parent’s wish I had to be part of the rat race and since I got selected in the Medical profession,I thought I have won the race.But,lo behold,still the process has not ended.
But just MBBS qualification( 5 yrs course) alone is not enough.We have to get admitted to the post graduation courses like MD/MS etc ( 3 yrs course),followed by specialized courses (radiology,neurosurgery etc) of another 3 to 5 yrs.
So the struggle continued.
At last I have got all the qualifications required + License to practice.But as a professional,freshly qualified,how I am going to be a successful practitioner ?Already ,the society is over saturated with Medical Practitioners. How I am ging to compete ? So the rat race saga continues.
As an employee/consultant
It was tough to get a decent job initially.
And to be accepted by the society…takes hell lot of time.
Then there is prestige issue.
Oh ! you are a doctor,how come you don’t have a car? Do you work in any prestigious hospital ? Are you Residing in small flat ? Are you in a rental house? shame on you ! Come on it is below your dignity….
These are the observations and comments from the friends,patients and well wishers.
To achieve some respectability I am supposed to own a bungalow,a car,a driver,and I should have my own hospital….what not ?
Added to this is a new addition to the family with the expenses sky rocketing …
So I have to work hard and harder,do extra duty hours, attend emergency calls,do regular night duties, to earn that little extra so that I can have my dignity and respect in the society.
Is this not all for the false prestige ?? What about family time ? Where is the happiness ?


As I am aging

My liabilities are increasing,due to reasonable or unreasonable demands,with commercial advertisement and new product release, adding to the agony and there is no chance of winning or coming out of rat race.So, more loans, mortgages,more liabilities become part and parcel of LIFE !
In Ilias Tisagklis words

A person entrenched into the “Rat Race” is the “proud” owner of a time consuming job which he desperately needs in order to be able to pay mortgage, rent, bills, credit card debt and all kinds of liabilities”

Eddie Murphy’s quote

Seventy-five years. That’s how much time you get if you’re lucky. Seventy-five years. Seventy-five winters, seventy-five springtimes, seventy-five summers, and seventy-five autumns. When you look at it like that, it’s not a lot of time, is it? Don’t waste them. Get your head out of the rat race and forget about the superficial things that pre-occupy your existence and get back to what’s important now.

Am I stuck in the quick sand ?

Probably one should remember the following quote in the early stages ……

rat race,compitition,struggle,human tendency

IS-movements.quotes.com

Finally

Often, people work long hard hours at jobs they hate, to earn money to buy things they don’t need, to impress people they don’t like. — Nigel Marsh
My sincere thanks for reaching this point.Huh ! I am exhausted in the rat race.Let me have some supplements !

How to escape Rat race ? Do you have any solutions or suggestions?

Please share your thoughts.

Inspiration-Ilias Tisagklis

Are you a ‘wanting’ or a ‘giving’ personality?

Not enough,greedy

“Enough of any thing is plenty.but plenty to some people is not enough”Sophie Irene Loeb

First let us talk about ‘Wanting’ personalities-

More money ,more popularity,more pleasure,more likes in social media,more than 1000 friends/follows in social media,more achievements ( though positive ),more power one can go on… and remember, we are never tired of ‘wanting’ more.This has become a human trait.

Why you want more and more …..and even more ?

Probably you fear the ‘uncertain’ future, probably you are ‘greedy’.

These things make you develop desire, lust and finally,frustration if not successful and you may go into a dejection/depression/revengeful mode.

As the ‘ wanting’ personality,you are always obsessed with more and more demands and quick & positive outcome.

You are restless.

Can you survive a good relationship?( Wife,relatives and friends ).

The relationship can go sour since you are not getting what you wanted and when you get,it becomes incomplete since you have newer demands cropping up.

You are unhappy all the time.Neither you make people around you happy.

So you make yours and other’s lives miserable.

The point I am stressing is that you lost your commonsense and fail to know the difference between ‘love’ and ‘desire

“Love lasts a longtime but burning desire lasts two to three weeks” Carla Bruni

At the end who is happy?


Now let us talk of ‘Giving’ personalities…

Let us say, now that you, the ‘giving’ type,and we all know naturally,you are the happiest person on the earth.

But note down.’Giving’ personalities are of different types because their ‘giving’ pattern depends on factors like faith,Fear,self serving and spontaneous

  1. Faith- These people have faith in God, and depending upon their religion philosophy,they donate some percentage of their earnings.and become the givers.
  2. Fear- comes to some,since many bad things happening in their lives,they make commitments to do some charity,hoping to get compensated by the Almighty and may derive some satisfaction.
  3. Self serving- these are greedy people in real sense and they indulge in ‘giving’, since they expect returns.Some say one can continue  one’s sins by religiously donating some percentage of one’s illegal earnings to temples,churches etc.
  4. Spontaneous-These ‘givers’ are emotional type and they don’t hesitate to donate (even if they are poor),whenever they come across emotional incidences,which require monetary help.

If you are a ‘giving’ person,you are said to be guy with a kind heart,you enjoy the ‘feel good’ factor,you have a fulfillment and finally total satisfaction .Wait…….

Are you sure whom to give,when to give and how much to give ?

My feeling is…. the ‘giver’ must be judicious.

1.If you belong to too much ‘giving’ type-people may take advantage and even misuse your kindness.

2. Your continuous ‘giving’ habit can bring down motivation among the ‘takers’ and they may become lazy.

3.If you happen to be ‘giving’ to the ‘wanting’ personalities,then you are doing a great harm to your philosophy.

So there is some ‘ART’ which you have to follow if you belong to ‘giving’ trait.

Thank you so much for taking your time to reach this point.

Do you agree that  most of us belong  to both categories with variation in intensity?

Please share your thoughts on this.

Inspiration- Swami Sukhabodhananda,Michele, Roya Rad,Guy Hatcher,pixabay

Monkey Lessons

Monkey lessons

Taming my Monkey mind is a full-time job

Don’t think of yourself as an ugly person,

Think of yourself as a Beautiful Monkey -Soojie

Always I wonder How we are different from Animals.

As you can see in the above photo ,the big monkey( I presume ,the teacher ) with its back facing us, seems to be busy teaching its first morning lesson to the students.

You can also notice that three student monkeys are very attentive & disciplined and one monkey is a bit unhappy & restless .The baby monkey of course has a long time to go to learn the ropes.

This one reminded me of my school days ,where some students gel well with some teachers and not too happy with some other teachers even name calling etc.

I feel the whole thing depends on to what extent the teacher can ‘inspire’ his/her students.

CASTLE IN THE ‘SAND’

Castle the sand

“We are like children building a sand castle.

We embellish it with beautiful shells, bits of driftwood, and pieces of coloured glass.

The castle is ours, off limits to others. We’re willing to attack if others threaten to hurt it.

Yet despite all our attachment, we know that the tide will inevitably come in and sweep the sand castle away.

The trick is to enjoy it fully but without clinging, and when the time comes, let it dissolve back into the sea.”
Pema Chodron

Castles in the sand reminds me of the popular number in 2005 by the band ‘Philosopher Kings’ If you find time ,listen the song in the the you tube 

Philosopher kings-Castles in the sand

Philosopher kings -Lyrics to ‘Castles In The Sand’

Built a perfect house in a perfect town
Dreamt a perfect dream and it all fell down
We held on tight like hungry lovers
Watched the day break from beneath the covers
Had to know for sure what it’s all about

Oh, this should be easy
Oh, just tell me we’re happy
Just building castles in the sand

I saw the naked light and it burned my eyes
Couldn’t look away no matter how I tried
I watched you explode when you think it’s over
And I burst in comin’ like a supernova
Had to track you down, had to find you out

Oh, this should be easy
Oh, just tell me we’re happy
Just building castles in the sand

And tides roll in, and waves get closer
The night was over
But we get stronger every time
We build our castles in the sand

Built a perfect house in perfect town
Dreamt a perfect dream and it all fell down

Oh, just tell me we’re happy,
Just building castles in the sand
Just building castles in the sand

Oh, just building castles in the sand
Just building castles in the sand

Daily Horoscope..boon or bane ??

crystal ball,crystal ball photography

Methods for predicting the future: 1) read horoscopes, tea leaves, tarot cards, or crystal balls . . . collectively known as “nutty methods;” 2) put well-researched facts into sophisticated computer . . . commonly referred to as “a complete waste of time.” Scott Adams

Crystal Balls are famous for Crystal Gazing ,a methodology used by ‘Readers’ or ‘Seers’ in predicting your future and to tell fortunes, even guiding the clients to decide in solving their current problems.

Let me be crystal clear,I am not finding fault with believers of Astrology.Some times I look up for Heavenly advice,when in distress !

Simply put can Astrology guide our Life ? Do advertisers take advantage of these horoscope predictions…in otherwords do these predictions advice us to buy something so that life is is made simple ?

Positive aspects of daily,weekly & yearly horoscopes

  • It gives the person a kind of satisfaction.
  • Gives enough time to plan for the future course of action.
  • Some times a person can take a once in a lifes’s time decision based on the predictions.
  • Even some claim that,cancer is also diagnosed with the help of astrology, in advance.
  • One can predict the doom’s day so that best possible precautions can be taken in advance.
  • Majority of Indians believe in astrology and marriages,nuptials,foundation laying ceremonies,Ribbon cutting,naming ceremony of the newborn are a few examples where Astrology plays a siginificant role
  • One can go on adding…

Negative aspects of daily,weekly,yearly horoscopes

  • Unfavourable predictions can have a tremendous depressive impact.
  • Dejection
  • Suicidal tendencies.
  • Based on the positive predictions person may go on buying lotterry tickets,indulge in gambling etc and ruin the life and family.
  • Since astrological predictions guide them on daily basis,these persons tend to be lazy and less productive.
  • Impulsive personalities can cause troubles to others and sometimes destructive.

Forget about the future…..Are not the current problems your own making ?

Do you believe in planning your future based on the fortune teller ?

” Forecasting is the art of saying what will happen and then explaining why it didn’t happen “ Anonymous.

Horoscopes.Astrology

Do you remember Paul the Octopus,people used to depend on it to predict World cup football matches ?

Let us start living in the ‘present’ , forget the ‘past’ which is already a closed chapter, and not to worry about the ‘future’ which we know nothing about .

Are you interested to know the varieties of Astrology available to day ? It is said there are more than 80 branches of Astrology and you will be amazed !!!

Do you think Astrology can influence you, based on type of your Weakness ??

Astrology FAQs What are the different kinds of Astrology?

Please share your thoughts/experience on Astrology .

My sincere thanks for going through the article.

My challenge…..Can you vouch that you have ‘Peace Of Mind’ ?

Peace of Mind,Happiness,happy

Searching for Peace of mind at Lord’s abode.

Present day life style makes us think that leading a ‘peaceful life’ is a distant dream…and I am glad you realised the truth.

The day you are born,you know that life brings lot of stress.At the end, you realise that it is impossible to be At peace with your mind,since you are aware that your mind is like a monkey….restless all the time resulting in piece of mind

” If you are depressed,you live in the past..
if you are anxious, you live in the future..
but if you are at PEACE…you live in the present “
Lao Tzu

What is ‘ Peace Of Mind ?’ Aka ‘peace’ ?

Thesaurus Dictionary says- it is the absence of mental stress or anxiety.

Wikipedia talks of Inner Peace,referring to a state of being Mentally & Spiritually at peace with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress

Being at peace is considered by many to be healthy. Peace of mind is generally associated with bliss,happiness,and contentment.

But the question is how do you get the Peace Of Mind ?

Take my challenge and Try these 10 secrets, I am sharing and I am so sure it will be a disaster!
1.Keep calm and don’t be jealous.”Jeaulosy comes from,counting others blessings,instead of our own”Unknown
2.Don’t bite more than you can chew,because nobody looks attractive,spitting it back. ‘Carrol Bryant’
3.Don’t work for recognition,but do work,worthy of recognition ‘H.Jackson Brown Jr.’
4.Never tell your problem to anyone. 20% don’t care & 80% glad that you have them ‘Quora’
5.If you live for having it all,what you have is never enough. ‘Vicki Robin’
6.“Less is not necessarily more. Just enough is more.”
Milton Glaser”
7.There is a story behing every person.There is a reason why they are the way they are.Think about that before you judge someone. ‘pinerest’.
8.Forgive & Forget,but never forget to forgive,you may find a happier heart is the key to a happier life ‘Mahatma Gandhi’
9.Never put off tomorrow,what you can do today. ‘Thomas Jefferson’
10.To keep the body in good health is a duty..otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear ‘ Buddha’

Wise men have given plenty of such advices,my guess is being,a human being it is impossible to get peace of mind,even if you follow the wise sayings 100% and unfortunately for a change,I won the challenge !

Thank you so much for taking your time to go through and let me know if there is some more secrets to add.

Peace of mind vs Piece of mind/

Are you responsible for the ‘Ripple effect’ ??

Ripple,Ripple effectRipples can have positive or Negative effects on our lives.

Negative aspect of Ripples

If you try to stop the Ripples

You will create more ripples

Think before you throw the stone ”    Sheila Burke

Here the author talks of negative effects happening in the society. So think many times before you indulge in actions.

Examples. 

Rumors will have ripple effects, so do not spread the rumours and remember , lynchings have happened.

Shooting from the mouth even before knowing the facts..

 Positive aspects of the ripples

You can create Positive Ripples in the world.

Every time you offer a kind word,Loving action

Empowering insight or Smile

Because,who ever receives it

Passes it on to someone,

Who then passes it on

Who the passes it on,

Who then passes it on,

Who then passes it on ”     

Who then passes it on….. Unknown

 

Your behavior influences others through a ripple effect. A ripple effect works because everyone influences everyone else. Powerful people are powerful influences.‘John Heider’

Do You Friendly-walk ?

Friendly walk

Hand to shoulder

Always wonder what makes the INDIVIDUAL to put hand on other’s shoulder !
What is the feeling that makes one to do like this ?

Does this indicate closeness or even comfort level or a kind of assurance….I am not sure.
I am curious whether this kind of behavior seen in Western countries.

Westerners can give more insight into this aspect of human behaviour.

Blog this way…..not that way !!

What is the philosophy behind blogging ?

Blogging is a more flexible medium.

Here the you can express the emotions,share the life’s experience with blogging community.

You can prepare the article leisurely,develop common interest with other bloggers, be more inspirational and encouraging ,bringing happiness and smile in everyone involved.

How to blog ?

This is million dollar question.

You are enthusiastic.You wish to be heard.You realized that blogging is the easiest way to reach millions.

Then you are stuck.you are not sure of the topic,and most of the topics are already discussed, dissected and deciphered. Even if you decide to write a post you are not sure how much inspirational,it is going to be and you can not afford to be amateurish.

you want more likes,more comments and unlimited number of follows.

Your wish is to achieve these impossible tasks in the shortest time possible.But then how ?

That is where you can utilize the principle of Beg,Barrow & Steal.

Go through as many blog articles as possible,find out the various material available in tune with your interests,amalgamate the thought processes. Finally Come out successfully with your own ideas.

OMG! Is that the way you advice a  budding bloggers ?

Come on, don’t be mean.I never recommended plagiarism.Have patience and go through the Wise men’s quotes at the end.

Benefits of Beg-Barrow-Steal:

1. It can be innovative ,by mixing ideas.

2. Recycling the available knowledge pool can give you more creativity.

3. Creative Commons license allows you to  use its contents and you can come out with amazing products

Remember Never ,never indulge in Plagiarism

Don’t forget to give credit to the authors,from whom you gained confidence and the required knowledge.

Now coming to the Wise Men’s wise counsel

If you steal from one author it’s plagiarism.If you steal from many it is research. ‘Wilson Mizner

Good writers borrow from other writers.Great writers steal from them outright. ‘ Aaron Sorkin’

Good artists copy,great artists steal. ‘Plano Picasso’

If you have reached this point, I am thankful and appreciative of your patience.

Inspiration-Mellisa Breau, Jon Morrow Image-pixabay

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Before you plug in a multiple socket, know how much power an outlet can pocket.!!!

Multitasking

Many people boast about their ability in Multitasking and even telling that, this is their single biggest achievement in their lives.

What is multitasking?

Well, initially it started as an ability of computer to do assigned jobs simultaneously,thus saving lot of time.

However the idea slowly creeped into the Human brains.

Also we are all aware that human brain thinks very high of itself all the time !!! Here is the example quoted humorously.

With age comes skills, it’s called multitasking. I can laugh,cough,sneeze & pee, all at the same time.

Joke apart,let me give you,  some day to day examples.

  • Talking over phone while cooking ( as Debra does in Everybody loves Raymond TV serials)
  • Driving the vehicle during a phone conversation.
  • Getting down the stairs,while talking over the phone.
  • Sending e-mails during a servious discussion.
  • Answering a phone call while attending a customer.I can go on and on.

“To do two things at a time is to do neither”  –  Pubillous Syrus in I st century BC

Multi tasking

Draining the brain reserves for nothing.

If you Carefully look In the above photo,you can notice the gentleman is doing multiple things at the same time.

1. Enjoying the songs through headphone.

2. Something kept in his mouth,I am not sure may be a red candy or a plastic card.

3. And he is also checking the currency notes in the purse.

“The irony of multitasking is that it’s exhausting: when you’re doing two or three things simultaneously, you use more energy than the sum of energy required to do each task independently. You’re also cheating yourself because your’re not doing anything excellently. You’re compromising your virtuosity. In the words of T. S. Elliot, you’re ‘distracted from distractions by distractions”.Twyla Tharp

The truth of multitasking well said by Heidi Klum

“I’m quite good at multitasking, but I have to do things immediately”

finally….. Remember  Multitasking is injurious to the brain-scientifically proved.

Thank you so much for your patience and taking your time to reach this point.

Pixabay,bestslogans.com

Power of Prayers

Prayers,God,Power of prayers

‘Power of Prayers can’t be explained.ButPower of Prayers can be experienced ‘. Unknown

If you can’t see light at the end of the tunnel, blast your way through the power of Prayers

Otherwise how you think the Thai kids along with their coach came out safely ?

How do you think Chilean or Chinese miners were saved ? How you think many impossibles become possible?

Prayers for Thai Kids & their coach

Pixabay/Inspiration-mottos for success aurora production.com

Bald Truth

Bald,baldness,bald truth

Unbelievable !                                                                                                                           21st century Surprise !!!

Prof.Dr.Google,single most respected and revered personality,without whose advice and support we are non existence, could not give me the exact definition and meaning of the idiom or phrase…(whatever you call it), of “Bald truth”

But I noticed many writers using these two words.I request the English Teaching professors to enlighten us how it originated.

As a student in my school days,I remember it implies ‘frankness’.

Can we also think of an alternate.. ‘Ugly Truth’ ?

Huh ! Why Truth has to be ugly always?

I Request English Pundits to guide and help me.

Now coming to the less serious part….

Bald Truth revealed by the wife, (regarding cause of her happiness) about her Bald Husband.

1. He doesn’t use my shampoo.

2. My brush is where, I leave it.

3. Easy to spot in a crowd.

4. Saves money on haircuts.

5. Will never have grey hair.

I will add my own. No need for dying the hair.

ba-bamail tells us 12 Fantastic Advantages of Going Bald

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